1. Do You Have a Fixed or a Growth Mindset?
If people have a fixed mindset, they view their abilities as a fixed entity. They tend to view their failures as a consequence of their insufficient abilities to perform well. If people have a growth mindset, they tend to view their competences as constantly developing. They believe they can improve themselves by hard work. They know that goals can be achieved with the right amount of effort, and that the effort pays off. They attribute their successes to internal factors such as their own abilities, which they believe they have the power to influence. Read more
2. Are You Mind Full or Mindful?
When we are mind full instead of mindful, we are mentally absent from the richness of life. We worry about what has happened in our lives and how it will be. We do not let ourselves see or experience life fully, and we miss many of life’s opportunities or experiences because of that. We need to take control over our attention (actively and consciously) to increase our present-centered awareness. Read more→
3. Do You Pick the Dead Man’s Solution?
The dead man’s solution is to have goals that could be achieved by a dead man, such as having no pain or no more terrible feelings. At first, it seems like some nice goals to have, but in fact they may not help us. It is often easier to mention things that we don’t want to be instead of coming up with things that we want to be. We spend much time thinking about what we don’t want to be (e.g., I don’t want to be a bad person), but does it help us in any way? I believe not. Read more→
4. Are You In Control?
The belief that one can exert control over stressful events has long been known to help people cope with stress. People like to have control over their lives, and people who have a sense of personal control seem to be better off than those who haven’t. A large body of research leads us to expect that the subjective feeling of being “in control” is related to happiness, well-being and job satisfaction. Read more→
